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“Water only what waters you” is how the saying goes. “What you allow is what will continue” says another. It all boils down to the same thing, don’t give all of your energy to people and things that drain you. Well, there’s another half to that solution for one-way relationships and I learned that the other half is to divest.What I mean by that is, not only should you stop putting any more of yourself into the relationship, but you need to take as much as you can back AND invest it somewhere that will immediately start to replenish you.
If you’re finding yourself putting fourth effort to communicate with someone and they don’t want to reciprocate, dwindle your effort down to (or less than) theirs AND start using that time and energy for something else like getting more rest, reading more books, getting to know someone new, or even just enjoying serenity. If someone has been making you feel worthless and unworthy of love, stop giving them your attention and start giving that attention to yourself. Treat yourself more, invest in your passions, and improve in your hobbies. People always say, if you hate your job, quit it. But don’t just stop there! Quit the job and start to do what you want to do! Or start to do something that puts you in a position to do what you want, in a reasonable amount of time.
Don’t allow yourself to wither away just to please another person, run away from a fear, or prove a silly point to yourself or anyone else. Don’t hold onto toxic, one-way relationships just because you’re afraid to let go. There are new, beautiful friendships to be made, a world to be explored, and careers to thrive in out in the world. Don’t let anything stop you from reaching them.
Ha! I honestly never thought I’d be someone who could say anything positive about online dating or give any sort of dating advice. So this is a bit funny to me. Continue reading →
My favorite thing to do in the morning is open my blinds and look at the trees outside of my window. One tree has a branch that hangs particularly close to my window, so I tend to look it it’s leaves first. Today, I noticed brownish, yellowish specks and a thought popped into my head… Time waits for no one.
The summer season is approaching a close and autumn is coming right behind it. No matter who was born or who died, no matter who was hurt or who found peace, no matter who found there way or who went deeper into the darkness… time didn’t stop. The leaves on this tree aren’t going to stop and wait for life to get better or worse to change their color and fall to the ground. The earth will keep rotating, its orbit continual, and time will continue to pass.
I, too, need not wait. Pain from my past, lost friendships, loneliness, or even my upcoming graduation are no excuse for me to pause my life, even for a second. I don’t need to wait for the “perfect” time to pursue my goals, get rid of toxic people and things, or to decide to be confident in myself. I have to get used to continuing on, just like to leaves on that tree. Those brown specks tell me that the tree is anticipating the change in season and I took it as a message from God, that I need to do the same. I’m about to enter a new season, whether I’m ready or not, and it’s time to prepare. Not when I feel like the time is right, but right now.
2018 isn’t over yet and it’s not too late to accomplish the things I’d hoped for by the end of the year. And honestly, before I saw the leaves this morning, I’d already come to the conclusion that I needed to forget the idea of this little “life pause” button that I can sit on when I’m not feeling like moving forward. But it’s a lot easier said than done? Don’t you agree? So, I always need a gentle reminder, like browning tree leaves or a stick note that I’ve placed on my bathroom mirror, or even a Pinterest dream-board.
The seasons are going to change soon. Are you ready?
I’ll probably end up writing several posts the revolve around this topic instead of one large one.
A year ago from today, I couldn’t have anticipated the things would unfold the way that they did. The last 12 months have been like nothing I’ve experienced before and I’ve learned so much. The academic year started off with Continue reading →
But I’m back! I have not forgotten my beloved blog, although a lack of motivation is partially what took me so long to come back! I’ve got some topics in mind that I would like to share my opinion on and I can’t wait to write these thoughts out. Not to mention, the beginning of the last stretch of this journey that I’m on is about to begin! So many things to talk about, and I’ve got the time to do it.
To go or not to go… that is the question… right? As an adult who really wasn’t that interested in going to college as a teen, but still went, I might have a balanced perspective on the matter for those who are contemplating going (or forcing their kids to/not to go). Continue reading →
It was just three months ago that I sat in my supervisors office with red, swollen, teary eyes. I was irritable, irrational, and just straight up tired of the world. My supervisor sat across from me in attendance of my pity party with a sad look on her face and she asked me if I wanted to continue working at my job. Continue reading →